Yesterday I was with my boyfriend. I had to go home to get ready and leave to go downtown for a wake. (pre-funeral, open-casket, of someone I just met 2 weeks ago but didn’t know well but am very sad and devastated over). He wanted me to stay with him longer but I couldn’t be late. So he asked me when id be done and to hang out after and I said okay.
Later, I’m leaving the funeral home and text him “Hey, how’s it going?” And he replied “Hey, not bad” I text him “Lol. Cool” Hoping that he’d realize he never asked me how I am, and I just finished having a terrible night having to say goodbye to someone stiff and terribly lifeless. I realize that his cellphone must have died, but only after he replied to my “hows it going”, forgetting to ask me, the person who should now be being comforted after the wake.
I know that he was at a friends house playing a board game because someone told me he was invited there to play with my bf and them too. Also, omeone else that was there has my cell number so he could have mentioned he had plans with me and she would’ve let him use his cell to text me about it. He finally texts me at 2am, but he got my text at 10pm- (after the wake, and he knew that text would be about our planned hang-out) He writes me “Sorry! My phone was dead 
:(“ But I haven’t replied yet. He got my text at 10pm, doesn’t ask me how I’M doing, he was playing a board game at his friends house- his friend lives 10mins away from me or 20mins from my bf’s house, he didn’t bother going home to charge his cell to text me about our plans, etc. So I didn’t hear from him all night.
What do you think the worse part of that is? What does this make you think? And how would you react?
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You are totally over reacting. Its a freaking text message!.
I dont want to sound rude but you (probably a teenager) should know that a person isnt the most focused on other things (like texting) when they are playing with their friends. You are being really selfish… you can leave when you have to and he doesnt get angry but you get angry if he forgets to text you back.
I wouldnt have any reaction at all. If he said his phone was dead and he was with his friends as you, yourself said, then whats the problem? Just tell him not to do it again and to try to borrow someone’s phone so you dont wait in vain.
I once promised to call back my boyfriend in 5 minutes but I forgot and called in about 3 hours… there was no problem between us because we are understandable.
NOt sure what age you are but seriously life is too short for arguements like this…. if this is an issue for you then you need to leave this guy behind because if he was a caring boyfriend he wouldve went to the wake with you for support no matter what.. why did he prefer to play a board game??? even if he didnt know anyone at the wake he would still have been support for you and couldve waited outside.. leave hime behind…if he doesnt put you first now he probable never will…
Hope this helps..
I think the only part that would make me a little upset is the fact that you guys had plans. He asked you to hangout when it was over and than he didn’t say anything about it. I wouldn’t stay too mad over it though. He probably wasn’t sure when you were going to be done, so he decided to go to his friends and play board games. His phone died, so it’s not his fault that he couldn’t text you back. Do you really expect him to leave in the middle of playing because his phone died to go home and charge it just so he could text you? He probably didn’t think it would be that big of a deal. Yeah, he should have asked you how it went but it wasn’t someone like family that you were really close too. I understand you were obviously hurt by the fact that they passed, but this isn’t something you need to hold against him. Is it really worth fighting over? I’d just talk to him and let him know it hurt you that he didn’t even ask how things were, but DON’T stay mad, he can’t go back in time. I’m sorry for the passing of your friend. And I hope all goes well