I’ve always disliked the word ‘tacky’ when it refers to weddings or funerals, but especially weddings. I’m helping two very industrious and thrifty young women (sisters aged 26 & 27) plan and execute a very tasteful double wedding with a small budget. Their budget is roughly $5,000 to $6,000 for their wedding, reception and honeymoon. There will be about 75 guests invited. They play to get married on 11/11/11. The wedding will happen in the late afternoon, and there will be a full meal served. The ladies are thinking about having an apple spice cake for their dessert. The wedding and reception will take place in the same spot, which is a club house that will be artfully decorated with fall colors and decor. I’m looking forward to helping them plan.
While I was helping one of the ladies shop for the materials to make the center pieces for the wedding. I saw someone that lives on my block. This neighbor I don’t know very well. But she stopped to ask what we were doing, and my younger friend told her we were doing. Then this neighbor decided to tell my friend that it’s tacky to have a DIY wedding, and she should spend her money on ‘real’ center pieces. Neither of us could really say anything. But I excused us both, and we went on shopping. My young friend was really upset by my neighbors comment. I told her to never midn that tacky person. We are planning a gorgeous wedding.
I will never understand why other people have to call a low budget, DIY wedding tacky. Can anyone explain this to me please?
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Because these people have no creativity of their own and couldn’t figure out how to even paint or decorate their houses without someone’s assistance. They don’t see the beauty of coming up with creative ways to stretch a dollar, nor would they get any sense of pride by doing so. She probably overspent on her own wedding, and is sore about it.
You know what’s more tacky than a DIY wedding? A jealous or nasty neighbour who would say something so insensitive to a bride-to-be. How classy, indeed!
Well i dont think it is my budget is between 6000-9500 but i am still DIYing my wedding im very creative and I know what I’m doing. Some people just thinl your supposed to spend about 20,000 or more for a wedding for what when it can be just as special for a lot less
Because most of them are. This doesn’t mean ALL of them are, just MOST of them.
goodluck with the weddings.
They do? I thought DIY was all the rage now? And then, with the impact the recession has had on many, it could actually be considered tacky to have the lavish wedding with all the bells and whistles. The low-budget wedding is the IT thing right now, if anything.
You just ran into one person with a bug up her butt, don’t worry about it. Besides, she’s not knocking the whole wedding, just the centrepieces, which may very wall have been a tacky endeavour.
The fact is that a lot of people don’t have the creativity and artistic ability, so to speak, to pull off a beautiful wedding if they are doing everything by themselves. If your friends are as thrifty and they know how to really dress up a venue on a budget, then I’m sure the wedding won’t be tacky. Don’t worry about what that neighbor said — she doesn’t even know you or your friend enough to assume that the wedding will be tacky.
And hey, if you can have a full wedding with 75 guests and a full meal at only $5K, then that’s awesome. It’s better than spending $20K or more on some extravagant event and then being in debt after you tie the knot. The marriage is much more important than the wedding, and financial issues really harm relationships in many cases, so I say cheaper is better. Cheaper doesn’t necessarily mean not as good.
I do think that it’s kinda tacky…but I would never criticize someone else…if that’s all they could afford…still, if I couldn’t afford but to have a double wedding on such a small budget, I would probably just elope. I would want my own day. I did go to a real low-budget wedding, probably around 3k for one couple recently, and It was just awful…it was potluck style, unrehearsed, the flower girl through down her basket and ran off, the centerpieces looked like something they picked up off the side of home depot late at night…there was moose heads and asbestos hanging from the ceiling of the lodge…it was just icky, so pllleeease, just make sure it’s organized and well-rehearsed if nothing else. The flower girl should NOT be surprised at her duties…lol, the groom should not have to run off to the bathroom mid-ceremony cuz he couldn’t stop sobbing (have tissue handy!) and put together a decent meal and decent centerpieces and everyone will respect it, because it will be obvious that hard work went into it, and it meant something to you to you all rather than just throwing it together.
You’re basing this on one comment from a tightly wrapped moron who probably needs a good lay?
Sane people would never call this tacky. I don’t have a problem with the word tacky when it’s applicable, like a cover charge for a reception. Or a bride throwing her own gift giving shower. But DIY rocks. In fact, the first wedding I went to as an adult was at a fire station, and what they did was amazing. I’ve also been to a barn wedding which might be my all time favorite (other than my own!)
I think its because people who do DIY wedding aren’t very good at it. They dont know how to make things and just aren’t very skilled. I think to really pull a DIY wedding off and not make it look tacky, you have to sort of have a talent with making things and an eye for color. Its not just putting things together and voila! But dont get me wrong, you can do it and it can come out wonderfully as long as you really try. Some people that do DIY dont try that hard and half *** everything, but I think it will come out beautifully if you have an eye for these things.
Edit: I totally agree with the above answer when she said that it takes a creative person. Plus like she said, fake leaves and candles floating in glass bowls is really standard. I think its really uninteresting too. You should look at Martha Stewart’s DIY things that she has online. She has wonderful ideas, plus look at Etsy. They have some cute things.