My alcoholic father left my family in debt, when I was a teenager. He refused to pay my mum a penny for my brother and me. He did not keep in touch at all, despite efforts my brother and I made. He is now dying and I know he will not have any money, or have planned for his funeral. I am just worried that I will be responsible for his funeral costs.
I know I sound hard, but he chose to abandon us and I resent the thought that I will have to get into debt, taking money I need for my 3 children, to pay for a man who made his own choices. I did not choose to be born to such a man, so why should I be responsible for his mistakes.
Sorry for the long question, but I hope someone can help me. Thank you.
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so do not have a funeral. let the state take the body, and you are done.
He is responsible for his funeral costs. If you feel an obligation to see him buried properly and he did not set aside any money then the burden of paying for it would fall to you, but you have no legal obligation to do so. If nobody pays for his funeral, the government will dispose of his body in the same way they do vagrants.
the person who arranges for the funeral is responsible for paying for it. if you do not want to pay for a funeral, then do not have one. Do not claim the body. If contacted by the coroner, let them know you do not care and the government will dispose of the corpse.
Unless you have any doubts, I’m with Stingray, let the State bury him.
No you can’t be help responsable for his funeral and as long as him and your mom are offically divorced then she can’t be liable either
Your father basically – from his estate.
If there is nothing in it and no one to take or willing to take responsibility then the local authority will have to bury him.
You don’t owe him anything. Release his body to study for science. Don’t feel guilty about it. The study of alcohol on his body could do more help then he has done for his own body. If he truly ever loved you or his grand children he would understand and not want you to waste money on his burial.
If your father has no assets, the local authority in which he dies has a duty to arrange for the disposal of his earthly remains. They help themselves to any assets he has — any spare cash, etc. to defray expenses. You have no duty to pay for any funeral.
Let the state bury him in a pauper’s grave.
Funeral payments will come out if his estate (ie ANY money in the bank or assets)
IF he has none and no family member will pay for the funeral or costs, the council can do a basic funeral, but it IS basic and not very pleasant.
No one HAS to pay for the funeral if they do not want to. Any council covered funeral costs will be taken from any money he has if any at all.
Many relatives simply do not have the funds, even if they do get it back from the person’s estate.
I know I wouldn’t!
If he is on any benefits, he will be entitled to some funding towards the costs.
Be aware, ANY money left to you and your family, will be taken to pay his debts first.
Sometimes wounds are too deep to ever go away completely but a funeral is at least for many, the end of a chapter. Think about it at least.
You can have a credible funeral for under $1000. Consider it charity. You’ll feel good about it forever.
their children.