I haven’t talked to my older brother in almost a year. I really don’t plan on seeing him or his family again, ever, even if he died I wouldn’t go to the funeral. I have my reasons why, but people always say let bygones be bygones. I don’t feel as if I should because he’s a bum and we never get along. is it okay to cut off a family member?
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It’s okay to cut someone off for mental health reasons.
Like if he severely verbally abuses you or something.
when youve met my sister
youll understand
suck it up and go give him a hug. look for a change for once. life is short.
Well speaking for myself If they have done you wrong then “Yes” anytime for you can pick your Friends but not your Family and their is no law that says you have to like them. By the way I have not spoken to my 3 brothers or sister in 10 years and I’m doing fine.
No and this hits me real hard. My 24 year old daughter decided not to speak to me anymore last summer. I am torn up and I miss her so much but she will not listen and I cannot contact her anymore. This is so painful. Don’t do it. Don’t cut off a family member. It is so hard and painful, I cannot describe.
Its not an honorable or chivalrous thing to do. That will greatly increase your reputation as a dreadful person.The more dreadful you are the further away from Gods favoritism you are to become.
If you maintain enough indirect contact to know if he changes his evil ways, yes. My sister and I have been estranged for a long time. When I tried to get in touch with her to tell her that I had moved, I found that she had moved (or maybe even died) without telling me. I wanted to contact someone who knew what had become of her, and found no remaining connections. It’s sad not to know her fate, and to know that she would have no way to contact me.
Yes, I tried an Internet search, but I doubt she’s sufficiently involved with computers to find me. Not the sharpest blade in the kitchen, if you know what I mean.
Never
When it comes to family there are limitations but dude come on he’s your brother thats like another you now I don’t know what happened and don’t Care to know but its a brothers not like a cousin because you have lots of those but brothers don’t really come in like packs of 10 or 20 just suck it up and figure out a way to at least be able to say HEY BRO and that be it you guys don’t have to be bestfriends
In Matthew 6:9 starts one of the most famous examples of prayer given by The Lord Himself it starts with “Our Father which art in Heaven… and it also says to forgive us our debts [sins] “AS” we forgive others, God forgives us using the “same” way we forgive others and at the end of that prayer it says also forgive trespasses which are sins done on purpose you can NOT be in the kingdom of God with the one who said “Father forgive them they know not what they do” while holding hate for someone who has sinned against you, no its not okay. http://www.vop.com = bible lessons,
http://www.bibleuniverse.com = bible.
I had the same problem with my sister, she was a drug user and alcoholic. Every time I saw her, she always borrowed/stole money from me. I never cut her off, but I never saw her, never picked up the phone when she called and only accepted text messages from her. We basically didn’t have a relationship. After a couple of years, things changed. We aren’t best friends, but we have some sort of relationship where we see each other on the holidays or if we are both at my dad’s house.
I’m sure you have valid reasons for feeling like this, but you never know what is going to happen in the future. Something might happen and you might change your feelings towards him. Don’t cut him off completely, but just keep him at a distance.
Nothing is thicker than blood, family is everything. They are a connection to the past, and your connection to the future. Through your family, you are immortalized, there is pride and honor in one’s family name. I know you have your own reasons, and I won’t ask about those, but I’ve told my brother he was a “stupid Jesus freak” and told him also to f*** off, I moved out the night I graduated from high school, and moved in with my boyfriend, I denied my families religion and have embraced Paganism. My family doesn’t hold any anger towards me, my brother forgave me a long time ago, and needless to say, I am certainly still on speaking terms with my family (I think our relationship is actually better now). I suggest you seriously look at the circumstances of your relationship with your brother, whatever he did is it worth never speaking to him again? Not going to his funeral?
Remember, no matter what you do, no matter what you say, he is still your brother, and he always will be.
It is not okay to cut off anyone specially a family member. Humans are not perfect. The best one amongst us is the one who is kind to others and forgives others shortcomings. it is easy to take revenge and punish people or boycott. This is something makes humans different from animals that we forgive. When we are treating somebody we should put ourselves in their place and think if i would like to be treated the same by others.
no u shouldn’t say that…a brother will always be your brother…we all have family problems who doesn’t…that is part of life…but life is too short to be hating u guys are blood brothers how can u say that if he dies u won’t show up to his funeral…we all have ups and downs…if u r mad at him its ok just try to solve your problems…i will be so heartbroken if your brother dies and u guys are mad at each other:(
Sometimes family can say and do things that can cut us like a knife. When they do it’s hard to forgive them because they are family and we expect more from them. But what we need to keep in mind is that they are imperfect just as we are therefore they are going to make mistakes. I don’t know what your brother has done to you but I wouldn’t cut him off for good. You may choose not to be in his company but if you are going to be at peace with yourself, you have to forgive him for whatever he has done.
Following the Bibles counsel may help. I was reading this scriptural thought today. It may help you in your situation.
Humble yourselves in the eyes of Jehovah, and he will exalt you.—James. 4:10.
The Bible contains excellent counsel on resolving conflicts. (Matt. 5:23, 24; 18:15-17; Eph. 4:26, 27) Unless we humbly apply that counsel, however, making peace will be difficult. Waiting for the other person to show humility is not the solution when we too are holding the key of humility in our hand. If our initial attempts to make peace seem unfruitful for some reason, we should not give up hope. The other person may need time to sort out his feelings. Joseph’s brothers dealt treacherously with Joseph. It was a long time before they faced him as prime minister of Egypt. Finally, however, they had a change of heart and begged for forgiveness. Joseph pardoned them, and Jacob’s sons became a nation that had the privilege of bearing the name of Jehovah. (Gen. 50:15-21) By maintaining peace with our brothers and sisters, we maintain peace with God as well. God will not forgive us if we don’t forgive one another including our family members. (Colossians 3:13)