A few weeks ago the exceptionally generous-spirited and talented leader of a support group I belonged to for teens with cancer passed away after twice having breast cancer, and her memorial service is tomorrow afternoon at a Nichiren Daishonin Buddhism Friendship Center. Her funeral was held shortly after her death at the church her parents had belonged to since it had been her ailing father’s wishes, but she and her son had planned out this memorial at the center where they worshipped. I understand the basic tenets of Buddhism, but am not knowledgeable about Nichiren Daishonin Buddhism. Could someone please explain its doctrine to me?
What are the customs of a memorial service at a Friendship Center? It’s nearly five hours long, and I’m not sure what to expect, or how to prepare for it. A friend who was in the group with me and I are attending his prom tonight, and then going directly from an after-prom brunch to the service. We’re trying to decide what we should wear to the service as we pack our bags for tonight. Do people wear black attire? Is it acceptable for girls to wear open-toed shoes? Should we bring flowers? Both of our families sent floral arrangements to her funeral, but we weren’t sure if we should bring them to the memorial service. We also both made paintings inspired by her for her son, but we already gave them to him. Should we have waited until the service? I mean, do people talk about what she meant to them and bring photos and sentimental trinkets? We did that at my friend’s memorial service, but she was my age and her parents had asked us to bring mementos and to share memories if we wished. I really just want to be respectful and do this correctly.
I’d be really grateful for informative answers. Thank you. : )
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