Should My 6 Year Old Sister Come To My Friend’s Funeral?

My sister is 6 years old and im 14 my sister loved my friend and she asked to come to her funeral. We planned for just me my 17 and 11 year old sisters go because we were her good friends.My friend committed suicide for reason i don’t feel i have to explain.My sister understand this well and she gets the concept of death but this would be her first funeral.Should she come?I know my friend would love to know that my sister came.

8 Comments

1. Jeanie says:

   October 16, 2011 at 11:46 am

   Ultimately, its up to your mom and dad. when i was 6, my friend died. the school counselor encouraged parents to allow children to attend the funeral so we could understand shes okay, but shes not coming back. and that she wasn’t hurt or disfigured. (my friend was shot) hope this helps and sorry about your friend.
2. Sophie Nurbert says:

   October 16, 2011 at 3:39 pm

   It matters on how she deals with death, is there a showing (if there is, I wouldn’t), and ultimately what your parents think.
   EDIT* If it’s an open casket, then I would probably not take her, since it could scare her. Your little sister may not truly understand that your friend is gone, If she really saw that your friend is dead, it could really upset her. How about you guys do something in honor of your friend instead? (Something she loved to do, etc.)
3. Mom2Max says:

   October 16, 2011 at 8:52 pm

   “My mom wanted me to ask you”
   Yeahhhhh. ok.
4. peanut 2 says:

   October 16, 2011 at 9:19 pm

   Well, what does she want to do.
   If she wants to go then she should be there.
   You dont have to explain how she died to her.
   I think she should
5. zebras. says:

   October 16, 2011 at 10:15 pm

   I think that she should go (because she asked) but know that at anytime she feels she wants to go, she can. I wish you and her the best, I’m sorry about your friend. <3
6. elaeblue says:

   October 17, 2011 at 1:29 am

   I would think that this funeral is gonna be too emotional and traumatizing for a 6 year old. Perhaps she could go to a visitation at the funeral home instead of the actual funeral.
7. Mom of 3 says:

   October 17, 2011 at 7:27 am

   I think 6 might be a bit too young to go to another child’s funeral. It could affect her for a long time. Here’s some information to help you decide on whether your sister should attend: http://www.parenting-advice-in-action.co…
   I’m sorry about the loss of your friend.
8. Rachelle Hilary says:

   October 17, 2011 at 10:33 am

   I think your sister is good enough.