I’ve posted on here before but I still don’t know what to do, advice is really needed. My ex girlfriend split up with me 4.5 months ago after 1.5 years. She gave reasons such as since she turned 21 she realised she needed to live, sort her life out with career and get some of her old friends back. I was never one to stand in the way of this. Then after she broke up, I knew she meet up with her ex (who cheated on her 2 years before me but they were friends). I still knew her passwords for email, I felt bad for doing it and I found emails to her ex saying miss you (2 weeks after we split). I’m pretty sure she never met up with him when we were together and i’m not sure if much did happen but she is single now.
She still owes me money and she brought me some of the money about a 3 weeks after we broke up, I made out I knew nothing about the ex and left it. I text her a couple of weeks later for the rest but she said when she gets paid. I decided to cut my losses and go no contact for 2-3 months until about 4 weeks ago her gran died so I text her saying my thoughts are with her family, she thanked me. A few days later it was my birthday and she text me saying happy birthday x I thanked her and then she asked me any plans for this year. I replied saying going skiing and doing a degree and asked her the same, she said she’s got her grans funeral and loads of interviews. We sent a couple more texts, I showed sympathy to her gran and said well done for the interviews. A few days later she unblocked me on facebook, because she blocked me when we broke up (I’m not her friend just can see her profile as she unblocked me). This is how I know she’s single, I also noticed that her profile picture is one I took on holiday 3 weeks before broke up.
Everyday I still think about her, I have flashback of happy memories with her all the time and I miss her so much. I even avoid certain places and songs because I know how I’d feel. I don’t think alot/anything happened with her ex but I don’t know for sure. I’m not sure if she knows how this break up has affected me either but it’s been the worst months of my life. Do you think I should contact her again and if so how?
I go away on saturday for a week and not sure if I should contact her before. I really don’t know if it will make things worth either. Please help me!
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I think you should leave it alone… there’s a reason y hes ur ex.
I wouldn’t. I would move on. You should not be looking into her email like that. I would consider it stalking. Not a healthy way to end a relationship by continuing to check up on her. It was nice pleasantries to give your condolences, but I would move on.
I think if you love her go for it. I recently spilt with my girlfriend and i know completly what you mean with avoiding songs and places and remembering all the good times. Put it this way. If you dont do anything then your going to carry on living with hardly any contact with her. IF you do try and it fails then you will only be in the situation that wouldve happened if you hadnt tried. However if you try and it works then imagine the good.
In 10 years and you look back having not tried, would you regret it?
As hard as it is, I think you should sever your ties with her and just move forward with your life. I know I would be pretty hurt if I went with someone for 1.5 years and they were telling an ex that they were missed 2 weeks later…and I would question how they really felt all the while that they were with me.
Sounds like she’s one of those people who flip-flops back and forth on what she really wants to be doing with her life right now and she’s baiting you along for the ride, kind of like a back-up plan that she’ll probably never use.
In further contact, I would stick to the matter of her repaying the money that she owes you. Even though you still think about her everyday, it doesn’t mean that you should get back together. You’re going through a healing process and that takes time. But I bet down the road in a year or so you’ll be glad that you’re no longer with her and are free to find someone who will plan their life with you in it. Best of luck.
hey there bro if I may call you that ?I feel for you and I hae been in similar type of a situation but mine was over a span of forteen years,kinda like on again off again but over the years we had experience with other people and it always seem we find our way back to each other.I know the feelings that go along with it and making a contact like dialing the numbers and then hanging up at the last second then doing it over again… It may be you are both like us where we tried to find love in other people but it just never has happened and when we get together it sems all that has happened in the past is forgottened. It takes alot of time and understanding on you and her ,but understand what happened ,,,Happened and leave that part in the past (do not hold against one or the other) care for each other if it don’t work then I guess it is time to move on ,but live life to the fullest for YOU
i know that feeling. The best advise is to move one. start talking to other girls to keep this on out of your head. You got to be realistic with your self and stop creating hopes. I was in similiar place with you. She broke up with you for a reason, and the main reason is because she wasnt all that into you anymore, because she wouldnt have done that in the first place. stop looking at other things and move on. date other girls..Trust time, if you cut the ties, and start talking to other girls, lil by lil she will be just a memory. Been there.Luck