I am about three months pregnant with my second child and I have been feeling extremely depressed. My husband is very nice to me and has been home with me because he recently had back surgery. He isn’t recovering very well however and has to go back to work soon, it worries me. He still gets paid from his job so I know this isn’t money related. I was not planning on getting pregnant again, it just kind of happened. I have an 18 month old son and I just never have energy to do anything anymore, I never want to go outside anymore. I used to keep my home extremely clean and now I just don’t have the energy. I take care of my 87 year old grandfather who I care a lot about it just gets really stressful at times. He doesn’t want to go to a nursing home (I don’t blame him) and nobody else can care for him, his son (my dad) passed away ten years ago. I currently am trying to get his funeral arrangements taken care of because apparently he paid two different insurances to cover two different expenses at two different funeral homes and that has been stressful. He never got life insurance and I know he didn’t pay that much for his funeral. His memory isn’t that great, he only remembers things that interest him. I don’t have any friends where we live because I live four hours away from my home town. I am sick of not having energy, and sick of always crying. I don’t know what to do I feel as if I am trapped but I would never leave because I care so much about my family. Is there anything I can do to give me energy again? Should I take an antidepressant even though I am pregnant? Please no rude answers.
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I would talk to your husband, your doctor, or both about your feelings. It seems like your day to day life is overwhelming for you right now, and you are valid in those feelings- do not ignore them! I am not positive about the safety of antidepressants during pregnancy, but your doctor may be able to provide you with some non-pharmacological alternatives for the time being, and maybe you can reopen the subject with him once your child is born.
Overall,keep in mind that you cannot be a proper caregiver for your son or your grandfather without caring for yourself too. Maybe look into options for a home health aide to lend a hand with your grandfather, or even just a safety sitter so you can have a few hours off.
Keep your chin up & I wish you the best.
Yes, you should speak with your doctor about how you are feeling, and also a psychiatrist. Many women take anti-depressants while they are pregnant. Some pose a potential risk to the fetus, but many times the risk of how your depression will negatively affect the baby is MUCH greater than what the meds could possibly do. You deserve to be happy, and so does baby. Im sorry for your heart.