know its long but plz i really need help
so me and my bf have been together for almost four years, he is 19 im 17 .
i went away for a week or so for my grandads funeral, and found out while i was away that he had cheated on me.ive had suspicions that he has been for a while.
He cheated on me with a girl that has nothing he likes. he likes curvy girls shes not he likes boobs she doesnt have anything and he likes girls with big thighs which she also doesnt have.
Things have been rocky after we moved in together a year ago. he sent me a txt then saying i need to come get my stuff he cant do this anymore with the way i treat him. i treated him like a king i gave him everything he wanted i cooked cleaned did everything for him.
he told his dad that he has been wanting to get out of the relationship for a while but told his mum he just needed space and he never wanted to hurt me but this was the only way for him to end it with me.
but if he wanted out of the relationship why did he plan a big holiday for us around christmas, whu did he get so excited when he found a new house for us to move into and why did he tell me and some of his friends he was going to marry me soon and that he loves me more than anything in the world. and why in that week when i was away did he keep sending me txts like i miss you so much when r u getting home i love you and i want you back here with me plx come home. why woiuld he say that if he wanted out?
hes th elove of my life i dont know what to do he told hi mum he diddnt want to talk or see me right now because i might get mad at him,
will he come back to me? does he just need some space or does it sound like he is done and wants nothing to do with me anymore?
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I think it’s time you moved on. He seems like he doesn’t know what he wants right now. You are both very young and have so much growing to do. If it’s meant to be, then it will work out eventually. In the meantime, you have to live your life. I know that it’s hard, but it’s not fair to you to be treated this way. He cheated on you! What makes you think he won’t do it again? You are worth more than that. Tell him you need your space and you need time to think and see how he reacts to that. Don’t waste your life with someone who doesn’t appreciate you.
dump his sorry a*s, you deserve better. Everyone deserves better than that.
Sounds like you are hurting over this man and want him back. But the question I have for you is why? He cheated on you, told his parents he wanted to end your relationship. I don’t care if he did “sweet” things in between. The fact is he doesn’t want a relationship with you. If he did he wouldn’t cheat.
Do yourself a big favor and move on. I know that it is hard and I know that you are crushed. But hanging on to someone who doesn’t want you is nothing but self torture. I can tell you from experience that once someone cheats on you they will do it again. He broke a trust with you and you should never trust him again.
If you were my daughter I would be telling you the same thing.
Sorry to be blunt but he is done, one sided love don’t work, pick up the pieces and move on even if he came back things will never be the same and chances are good he would do it again because he knows you will take him back, I feel for you and hope things get better,