So I dated my ex bf for four years. He lived here for almost a year and then he moved and we maintained a long distance relationship, and it was pretty good. We always knew that we had something very special. When i was 15 and he was 16 we had a rough start because he played me but then everything calmed down a bit. When he moved we were still happy he tried to come and visit me once a month, since he was 4 hours away my mom wouldnt let me drive to see him, well when i turned 16 so he was always the one to come see me. Well something happened last summer, he started not calling and not answering texts or calls. And he started texting his ex gf and told her that he broke up with me a month before and that i was crazy and just wanted to get pregnant to keep him. not true. i dont even know of i want kids. well anyways she was sleeping with one of my best friends so i found out everything about this. so i left him, it took almost 2 months to finally do it too. i hurt him so bad, but he betrayed me and i didnt know what else to do. This was in october, the final straw was because my brother in law passed away, it was very hard on our family he was only 34 and it happend 5 weeks after the diagnosis. well he wasnt there for me. and he couldnt “find a ride” to the funeral because his car was messed up. Well in december i started to talking to this guy i had met the year before and we were friends then. Then he tried to move to fast so i told him it was too much. then in feb we started talking again and well everything was going good i was trying to get over my ex because he now has a gf. he said he missed me and he wanted me back but was scared. but i started dating this other guy. he is my bf now. everything was good for the first 2 weeks. then he left for training to be a marine for a month. he came back early after a month and now hes been here for a month. We’ve argued every night this week… I dont normally argue with anyone so i know im not the problem. he take everything too personally and tries to move way to fast. it makes me realize how much i love my ex because he knows me so well and we always knew everythng about each other. this new guy gets mad so easily. over stupid things, like my cell phone service was crappy one day and i told him from my friends phone, he was still mad. its just idk? i miss my ex so much, i dream about him. should i keep ignoring that? or should i take some time to myself? its not like i dont like my bf but he scares me he said hes falling for me. hes trying to get me to schedule classes and work around him. i dont want to plan my life around anyone. im only just graduating highschool in a week. lately i keep imagining myself with my ex. i miss him alot.
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First you need to accept that “arguing” is part of any relationship. When two people, who come from two different worlds start a relationship, they need to make many adjustments and that effort usually results in arguments. That’s when you need to compromise. More on all that in my “source.”
I think you already know the answer about your new bf. You’re not missing your ex as much as you’re missing being comfortable in a relationship. It sounds like your ex has moved on, and you should too, just not with this new guy. A relationship takes work, yes, but it shouldn’t be one person doing all the compromising.