Is it a good idea to tell your boss how you felt about working for them if it’s your last day on the job?
A friend and co-worker of mine felt picked on by her co-workers and a supervisor to the point that she felt the need to resign. She confided to me how mean her boss was and I agree, her boss was a bit inappropriate at times. (example: a relative who helped to raise her passed away. She was denied a day off to attend the funeral and was told by the boss, quote: “Well, it wasn’t like it was your mother”!) Supposedly, a co-worker was granted the same day off to attend a golf tournament. She wants to calmly and professionally tell the boss how she felt favoritism towards other employees. She also plans to bring up past moments when the boss was out of line. I think it will harm her chances of getting good references and I think she should leave well enough alone. She says she needs the closure, so she has to do this for her self. Is it a good move? How should she go about doing it?
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You are correct, she is wrong.
She should keep quiet especially if her opinion has not been asked for.
“Closure” is something that comes from within. Feeling good about leaving a work situation she felt was unfair ought to be all the closure she needs.
Does she actually think the boss will agree with her point of view? lol….
No, no, no…do not do it. It is not going to change the boss and he/she can do you harm with references when they call him/her about you.
NOOOO! NEVER speak ill to a person in management when you leave! It ruins your chances of a good reference, and if she’s working in the same area or field, people do talk. If her boss was that out of line she should have taken it to her HR department, but it’s probably too late to file a complaint now.
Also make sure she doesn’t mention this in future interviews. Bashing another employer, no matter how bad they were, never sits well with people who may want to hire you!
If she has an exit interview, I think she should give some examples of things she had problems with. She does not have to bash anyone to do that. As you said, she can be calm and professional about it.
When employees act inappropriately, the boss usually has something to say. I think the same should be true when a person leaves a company because of the reasons you mention.. Maybe that boss is continually being unfair, and if so, the upper management needs to know.
I think that telling him, in an honest way, why she is resigning and maybe providing a few pieces of evidence, will clearly communicate to this boss how working under him was. She can get a reference from another person of higher stature in the company.
Usually, work places will have an exit interview and this would be the time to express how you really felt about working there.
Confronting your boss, even on the last day, is never a good idea. Most likely, the boss will not change her ways. Telling someone off MAY make one feel better about themselves and MAY cause the other person to become speechless, but with some people, they’re just not interested. By telling your boss off, this is letting the boss know that you didn’t like them or felt picked on and singled out all the time.
I also would not email, write a letter or call her after I had left. You have no idea what people are capable of doing. Confrontation is never a good idea.