Okay so me and this Pisces guy have been talking since August. He lives out of state. Starting out we texted and spoke on the phone every day (texted mostly, spoke on the phone every now and then). About 3 wks in I suggested we start using video chat to get more of that in-person feel. I’m assuming he liked that idea more since he would bring it up every time we spoke on the phone. We started feeling each other and shockingly had more in common than I thought (I am an Aries). We made plans to meet in October and so…it happened. I drove to where he lived, went back to his place and it was a completely different person. Extremely laid back, non-conversational, I found myself breaking the ice a lot which I found very weird and in turn made me feel terribly awkward and anxious. 
Occasionally he’d ask a random question or if I wanted something (drink, eat etc,). Me being the aggressor by nature we sort of met up in the hallway and I grabbed his arm and kissed him..BOOM..he was all in. We went from the bed to the couch to the hallway…AMAZING. Afterward, we decided to take in a home movie. He even layed his head in my lap. I thought things were back to normal, finally coming around..this was the guy I’d been waiting to see and I was smitten!………….THEN MORNING CAME….he told me he had a funeral to go in support of a friend ,so he left, came back…and total SILENCE for at least half the day.Very weird. He spoke every now and then but what I found interesting was he never kissed me, never initiated any contact with me. I felt like a stranger in someone’s house. I hear Pisces live their space so because I sensed he did not feel like talking, I didn’t talk. But I felt I should have anyway. Anyway, The day I left it was the same dry, drab look and conversation. What went wrong? Was it something I wasn’t doing? Did he lose interest that fast? Before our first encounter he would text “Good morning, (insert cute nickname)”…now it’s just “morning” or “night”, very impersonal. Oy vey. I would love every one’s thoughts on this. Has my little fish found another pond to swim in?
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The main trouble, as I see it, is that this man is a product of our modern society and ways. The current generation are more used to communicating via electronic gadgets than directly with a person. He may have sounded friendly, interesting and cute when using texts but in person he was a cold fish. It is not his fault it is the way modern 21st century people are! They lack interpersonal skills. If his messages have become limp also it is probably because you seemed dull to him. He’s probably written a very similar question to yours on Yahoo Answers too. If you think the physical side of things was fine then it’s just a case of seeing him in person more and telling him to talk to you. He might not be the chatty type but he’ll have opinions on matters that are close to his heart. Try talking about current affairs. Ask him what he thinks about world hunger, tragedies that befall the poorer countries, politics… See if he’s got a brain. If you draw a dead end there, go to more simple topics such as movies, favourite foods, tv. Ask him what his aspirations are. Find out everything you can that you have in common with this guy. If he still seems like a dead fish and you’re dragging the conversation out of him like pulling teeth, then you’ll have to conclude that he is a waste of time and space. Find someone who stimulates your brain as well as your erogenous zones.