I have a 6 year old son with my ex-boyfriend who recently passed away unexpectedly. I have remained close with his family and for the most part with him. My name was listed in the obituary as the mother of his son and I stood in line at the wake, which his mother asked for and wanted as well. She also included me in all the planning for the funeral. My current fiance was helpful at first but then brought up that he wondered why my name was in the obituary after someone brought it up to him. He said it made it look like I was still with my ex-boyfriend. This really upset me and I am just wondering if I am completely out of line for getting upset over this. It also bothered me that his friends had mentioned this to him. I did not think it was inappropriate for my name to be there or to stand in line, but now am wondering. I have tried to think of how I would feel if the situation was reversed, but I feel like it would not bother me, not enough to bring it up.
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If you was with him for that much of a time. An was still close to his family.. no I don’t think you did anything wrong. Your childs father an you started a family..you have a 6 year old together an nothing can change that. If he gets mad an says it was wrong..maybe you should ask him to step in your shoes..he would have done the same thing if the curcumstances were the same. Best of luck..
You do realize that your fiancé is acting jealous of the deceased-father of your child, right? How incredibly selfish of him. I can imagine that he may feel a little insecure seeing you distraught and upset over another man and putting a lot of time towards his funeral but the fact is that he was the father of your son and you deserve and NEED to be able to grieve. Let your fiancé know that you love him dearly and that hasn’t changed, you simply needed closure so that you can remain strong and supportive for your son. By the way the focus shouldn’t be on you or your fiancé, YOUR SON LOST HIS FATHER. do what you need to do for yourself so you can be the best mom you can and your fiancé, whom I’m sure loves you very much, will support you.
as inappropriate as I find it personally, I applaud your son’s father’s family for including you, even if they did it so the little guy would have you close by. It shows a lot of class on their part.
As for the current “fiance,” a term I don’t really know what means anymore being that everybody uses it even when they don’t have an upcoming wedding, he is being a bratty selfish crybaby who is ignoring what your child may have needed, not only now but as he grows up and older, at the time he lost his daddy, and is making it about HIM.
Keep the connection with the dead guy’s folks, because it sounds like they will always be there for you and your little guy. Quit calling boo-hoo brat a “fiance” bc he has some growing up to do before he marries anybody. Especially you, since you’re already a mom.