Me and my ex broke up at the beginning of september because he was always talking to other girls, trading sexual photos with them and all this other bad stuff but i never did any of that i never even hung out with my former guy friends i was so true and honest with him , we’d always break up and get back together because we had been through everything together we’ve been through fights, arguements, my dad and grandfather dying and he was there buttowards the end he got so bitter , he told me on the day of my dad’s funeral if we didnt have sex soon then he’d break up with me , but he wasnt always like that in the beginning he was so sweet and nice and nothing could get between us . i even stood for 15 hrs in times square for him because thats what he wanted and the whole time i stood there while he talked to another girl the whole time (not in that way) but it still sticked me off , and to top it off he got her number some how and i told him not to talk to her or friend her on fb and he did …. yet i still went back with him … but one thing that makes me love him is when he stood by me the whole time when i got hit by a car last january and i broke my leg and had to undergo numerous surgeries and my face looked horrible but he still was by my side every day .
there’s so much more that he did but i cant go through everything of course ,
but anyways we were together for a year and a half and then we broke up and when we did he was so distraught threathening to kill himself , he would cry to me and would beg me to take him back and i just couldnt do it because he had hurt me so much and i was so mad he had hurt me so bad when all i wanted is for us to be together forever and i had put so much love and effort and time into the relationship … anyways he’d call me non stop crying and id say mean things like i dont want you or leave me alone im done with you and recently i found out from my bff he has a new girlfriend and at first i was like idk .. i really didnt care but then idk something came over me a week later and alot of his things were still at my hiouse so i called him and we planned to hang out so we did and last time we’d hung out he was all over me and i expected that this time and he wasnt like that at all i was all over him and he kinda pushed me away and i hurt , so we started talking and we started opening up aboput everything an i got so mad because before when we had been dating he never wanted to change his fb status , and he did with his new gf grace and i was hurt and that night we shared the same drink and ate the same food from the same plate and we hugged and tickled one another and when i cried he held me but that nigth when i went home i was so heart broken , i didnt realize how much i missed him , everything about him , his flaws and all and i had been txtin him and he says he really misses me in his life as a friend and that his new gf will nvr understand him as much as i do , but he says that he doesnt feel romantically about me anymore and now i havent been eating and barely drinking and all i wanna do is die , i dont understand if you love someone it doesnt just go away that easily , he met her at the end of october and we broke up in september … like wtf !
he even said that him and his gf relationship isnt the best and they dont have sex because she’s not ready and he doesnt love her or cant talk to her in that way and that they dont see one another that often ,but im right here for him
he gives me mixed signals one min he says your right love doesnt just go away in a month i still love you then the nxt min he says i love you as a friend not romantically anymore . and he cried to me over the phone about it .
i havent even felt this sad when my grandfather and dad died this year but i feel so broken and helpless like i cant go on , he’s my everything .. idk what to do i just want him back what should i or can i do to get him back ???
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I think it’s time you let him go, and don’t lower yourself to reconciling yet again.
It’s a matter have hanging on to SOME degree of self-respect and letting yourself be more important than to rely on some guy for your happiness. It’s better to be alone than to be with the wrong person.
As long as you’re there for him to use as a stand-by while he plays around, then you’ll never have a real relationship.
I read the first 2-3 sentences and that was all I needed to make my decision. You are too good for him, sweety. He doesn’t deserve you. It’s time to move on.
Guessing by your question, you are anywhere between 17 and 19 years old….am I right am I right???
Anyways…
My advice to you is, let him go.
Its going to take courage and strength to do that, but its going to be better for you in the long run.
From what I gather, he is extremely disrespectful and a bit of a loser…
He treats you the way he does because you let him.
You are his perfect target, you seem to have no self esteem or confidence, and he knows he can do what he pleases and you’ll still be there for him…
Believe me, I’ve been in your place and now that Im older and wiser, I look back and think to myself what an Idiot I was to put up with so much.
Luckily, us women are resilient, we bounce back quickly.
You wont die from this break up. You will feel it for a while, and that’s ok too.
What you need is surround yourself with people who love you. With those who are positive and supportive influences in your life.
You seem like you are a sweetheart and I am sorry that some prick couldn’t see that.
You’ll be with the person you are meant to be with.
Just let go and let God.
Jessica, when we’re hurting all we want is to make the hurt go away but it’s not that easy. You were with your friend a very long time so it’s only normal to have feelings of loss, loneliness, & regret. When we want something so bad we often turn a blind eye to the real picture.Love doesn’t hurt you,embarrass you,disrespect you, or leave you wondering why? You’ve got to sit down and really be honest with yourself. Love is amazing and it’s a feeling we all deserve. Don’t worry it will find you again. I will pray for you to receive peace and comfort as you go through this.