I’m going to come out to my mom and dad that I’m a lesbian tomorrow. I’m sick of lying all the time.
They’re really strict Christians(I mean like, the picket’s-funerals kind) and they’re going to kick my out. I say this with 99.9% certainty.
I’m a teenager. Where should I go if/when they kick me out? I don’t really have much family around here, and for sure not any that would accept me. Where can I go?
Should I like, pack a backpack in advance in case they don’t let me get my stuff? In that case, what should I take? Food and some clothes, what else?
I’m not currently dating anyone, so a girlfriends house isn’t an option. I’m a bit shy so I don’t really have too many friends that I could stay with… and advice?
Oh, and please don’t say not to tell them. I really don’t think I can lie all the time any more.
Oh, and yes, I’m SURE that I am gay. Positive.
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If you are a minor they can’t legally kick you out.
well if your under 18 they cant legally kick you out but i they do go to a friends or a hotel or talk to them about it and pack a bag …just in case
good luck
I wouldn’t be so positive they will kick you out. But I would pack in advance just in case, clothes, food, money. Even though I’m sure they will give you time to gather anything else up. If no where else, go to the police and say what happened, you can probably get something for neglect and then they’ll help you out. I don’t know, that’s what I would do. Good luck hun.
Talk to your school counselor, pack a bag and have someone hold onto it in case they don’t let you, and try to save some money and find a place to go BEFORE you tell them. Your school counselor should be able to help you come up with a plan. It’s not right. If you’re under 18, they may even be charged with neglect or abuse of some sort. But there are programs to help you if you get thrown out, but you need to know about them BEFORE you’re on the street for the best effect.
Don’t do it tomorrow, it’s too quick and soon for you to properly prepare for what might happen. Plan on them kicking you out a bit more, have a plan, and have support set up BEFORE you do that.
Add: Yeah… if my parents kicked me out for something like this the last thing I’d want to do is get the police to force them to take me back. Just saying.
First look for teen centers or any gay rights organizations that are near you to see if they can help find you a place to stay. Technically if you are under 17 they can’t kick you out but they can make your life hell if they react badly to you coming out. You should probably pack before you tell them to be on the safe side. You should also pack your books and any school stuff you have along with tooth brush and soap ect… The other option is you could call the police on them for kicking you out if your still a minor.
Depending on where you are, there are likely shelters (especially if you are in a city) that would be willing to take you in at least temporarily. I would research one that is nearby your home.
From there, there are other options, such as understanding family members, friends, etc.
I think that an important step is establishing with someone right away that your parents kicked you out. If you don’t, they can use the police to declare you a “runaway” and be returned to them, where they have several options to make life miserable for you. Hopefully they don’t just go straight to any of those. If you do get that established, then they may be seen as unfit, and you will not be required to return to them.
Good luck, I’m sure things will work out for you. If I could, I’d offer more help.
I live in Ohio and it is illegal to throw a minor into the streets. Your parents should be ashamed of themselves if they do this. You do not want to hear not to tell them. Since you do not have a girlfriend why do you have to tell them right now? Your parents should love you no matter what. None of us are perfect and we are who we are. If they do throw you out go to the nearest police station and tell them you have no where to go. Good luck to you.
If they kick you out – go to the nearest police station and ask them what you should do. They will make sure you have a place – they will call CPS and you will be given a place to live. Your parents are responsible for you until you are 18.
Try not being gay. That might solve this whole predicament.