Is this wrong of him? Or is it wrong of me? Is there something we can do to compromise?
Well, let me put it as short as I can: In the past 5 years, my family has fallen apart. Both my grandparents have died, torn the family a part, everybody thinks that someone else in the family is a backstabber. So no one talks to one another. My mom wouldn’t let me talk to anyone, so I’ve had no aunts, uncles, cousins, no family at all. This Monday my uncle passed away suddenly. And so everyone is now going to see each other at the funeral, and the thought of that has brought back all the feelings I have had over the past years. Other than that, I’ve been dealing with an overbearing, mentally abusive mother and a physically abusive father. (I’ve made plans to move out in 6 months.) I have a full time job, and I’ll be going to college. So I’ve been under a lot of stress.
Now, talking to my boyfriend helps me feel better about things, like at least someone cares, and it makes me feel a little closer to him. But recently he has told me he can’t listen to any of my family problems anymore. This kind of hurt my feelings. It made me feel like he wasn’t supporting me. But then he told me that the reason why was that it makes him feel very upset. And so then I felt wrong for getting him down.
….So I don’t really know how to look at it.
Perhaps it is like hearing someone complain? I don’t know…
The other thing, is that I suggested that I go to therapy, and my boyfriend got upset and didn’t like the idea because he took it as he can’t make me happy.
I love him, and I don’t want this to tare us apart. What should we do??
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dont complain to him all the time, talk to him if you have certain things on your mind. iv been dating my boyfriend for two months now and i recently told him about something very personal. he told me to come to him and talk to him if i needed to cos he will always be there for me, he told me that he felt really sorry for me and wanted to protect me. in my experience always talking to someone can take it out of them and push them away so try not to talk too much, obvously talk to him about things but i think therapy will be good. explain to him that he makes you feel happy and helps you but you dont want to hurt him and make him feel bad and you will talk to him you just need some profesional help to get you through this. hope this helps good luck x
Any close friends? Friends are always good to talk to, especially if you don’t want to bother your bf about it. Although he is your bf and shouldn’t have reacted that way…to be honest, I don’t think you did anything wrong by wanting to talk to your bf, he should care enough to listen to you…it may be hard for him to find words to comfort you though.