My sister has always been really a irresponsible. I just turned 20 and she is 25 and I have been told numerous times I am More Mature. She does drugs, works part time, lives with my mother and does not pay for anything for herself except her drugs. Our father passed away in February she through a hissy fit at the funeral and was not at all there for me and my brother, although we were there for her. She moved her 30 year old boyfriend into our house without asking how anyone felt about it. He is lazy does not pay for anything for his self barely works and does not even have a car. My sister got pregnant in April ( my mother suspected on purpose) and had an abortion . I was up at school during this. Fast forward to this her boyfriend and her still taking advantage of my mom and step-dad. It is November and she got pregnant again on purpose not even 5 or 6 months later. She is definitely not responsible enough to have a baby, she saves no money and has no plan in life, nor a plan to move out and grow up. She acts like her having a baby is like getting a puppy. It isn’t fair that she has to put my family through this over and over again. Anytime I mention to mom she tells me there’s nothing she should do and I should be happy about this and I should have no opinion but I live in this house I pull my weight. I want to be supportive but How can I when she keeps making these mistakes time after time. Why do I need to be a subject to her mistakes over and over?How should I handle this?
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u slap her face then grab her ***. then u throw her into a wall and then u yall at her
you could talk to your sister about it but it sounds like she wouldn’t listen
you could talk to your mother about it but it sounds like she wouldn’t listen either
if you are going to continue to live in your mother’s house you might be better off just learning to live with it
or you could make plans to get a place of your own. if your mother bothers to ask why tell her you think she is enabling your sisters bad habits by not making her contribute to the house or get out. and that you choose not to be part of the enabling. and that she knew you were going to move out on your own sooner or later – just turned out to be sooner
I wouldn’t be supportive if I were you. I would just move out as soon as I can.
It’s your mother and stepfather’s house. Until and unless THEY decide to set some rules and make her live by them, there’s nothing you can do. Maybe you could talk to your stepfather .. if you, your brother AND your stepfather all stand up to your sister and her parasite of a boyfriend, maybe you could push your mother into growing a spine.
BTW, you do realize that if your sister is on drugs that baby will have serious health problems? You could report her and her live-in-lout to Children’s Services.
Hi there Danielle, I’m so sorry that you have had to go through so much with your sister–it would be hard to do, but the only way you’ll ever get any semblance of peace is to move out, because unfortunately you can’t change one person in the place you currently live–we can’t change others, only God can do that–I hope that you will find peace!! Dedee
It seems that you are one of those people who thinks that you just need to give other people a good talking to and they’ll straighten up. You want to know what to say so that they’ll listen.
Best you give up on this idea right now, before you end up spending your life trying to talk sense into people who aren’t interested in being sensible.
This is not your problem. You should take the advice of the other answerers and move out of the house. Get your own life and live it as best you can. That’s all you can do. It sounds harsh, but that’s the way it has to be.
You can move out or sit down with your mom and sister and talk to them and tell you mom what your sister keeps doing.
The bigger question is…why do you people keep allowing her to be this way? She does these things because you enable her to. No one tells her no. And until you do she will be living there with her baby and boyfriend. Your parents will be buying the things for the baby and probably taking care of it. Yes she is responsible for her own actions and should know better but if your family allows her to do this then you share in the problem. My advice is sit down with everyone except your sister and ask them if they are ready to take action and do something about the situation. That may mean getting together with her and telling her what is wrong. Telling her she has 5 or 6 months to get herself together and get out of your parents house. Telling her the boyfriend has to go. Telling her she needs rehab. And most importantly telling her you love her but you cannot continue to let her act this way.
If you guys don’t want to say anything to her then you have to live with it. Why it has gotten so out of control is beyond me. But you know how to attempt to make it better.
Slap’a'***** n tell her to get the **** back in the kitchen
i would look at my mother and say ” so your telling me that it is perfectly ok with you that you 25yr old daughter does drugs, which is slowly killing her, has her lazy a*s boyfriend living here eating the food you pay for and sleepin in this how which you pay teh bills for. And your gonna be okay with a new born baby being brought up in drugs. and do you really think they are gonna pay for the baby’s needs as long as you keep supporting their habits.Mom does any of this seem the way it should. cuz i thought that maybe they should grow up, move out, get jobs, stop the drugs and raise the baby. It’s not the child’s fault they are gonna have these parents. but you are her parent. shouldn’t you be showing her the right thing to do? She sure as hell isn’t gonna listen to me. i’m only goin to school and tryin to make something outta my life. Y would she listen to me.? I think you stop the bull sh*t mom and make your daughter do wats right for you grand daughter.”
Please don’t think i am saying something bad against your mother cuz i promise i’m not. But if you make her feel guilty maybe she will try and talk to you sister since know one else can get through.
I hope everything works out okay……God bless