last night, my bf told me that his grand father passed away the night before. I told him i was sorry and offered my condolences over the phone. He had plans to go home (out of the country) anyways for xmas. His family is delaying the funeral until xmas eve when my bf will be home. Really sad and weird to have it then :/
My bf is leaving to go home tomorrow. I invited him (prior to learning of the grandfather passing) tonight for dinner and so i can give him his xmas presents.
Before I went to bed last night I texted
” Sleep well <3 sorry again to hear about your grand father… good night"
he responded: Thank you! Sleep well too 
So my question is should I give him a sympathy card when he comes over? Or is that too weird/over doing it bc i'm seeing him in person and it's supposed to be a small christmas thing/ me giving him his presents.
I picked up a simple "thiinking of you card" that says something like, "my thoughts are with you and your family at this time"
Or should I not give him the card, just ask how he's doing, and carry on w the xmas evening as a "distraction" of sorts for him before he has to face going home tomorrow. We are in our 20s and have been dating for about 7 months.
Thanks.
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Since you’ve already shown him your condolences on the phone and via text the card isn’t really necessary.
A nice gesture (since you’ve already gotten the card) would be to address it to his immediate family.
Just have the dinner and go on like nothing. I’m sure he will appreciate the distraction. Besides, he’ll have more time be sad, and to say goodbye with his family on Christmas Eve at the services.
Also, just be supportive and comforting if he wants to talk about it or is still a bit out of it/sad.
Good luck!
I wouldn’t get the sympathy card but send flowers to the funeral via the internet.
Just ask how he’s doing and carry on as usual. It will serve well as a distraction and he already knows you care.