My coworkers mom died [she was 89 and sick with pneumonia] earlier this week and the wake is today.
I did not know my co workers mom but am going because she’s a friend and other people from work are also going.
Do guests bring anything?
It’s in a funeral home so I don’t think food is an appropriate gift.
Also the obituary said instead of flowers to donate to her favorite charity, which I did online.
Am I supposed to bring anything or just show up in black.
‘PS I do not have one all black shirt! I have a black shirt [short sleeve cowel neck but business casual - not a t-shirt] with a white flowery design through out. It’s mostly black. And I’ll be wearing black plans and black flat shoes.
Is this ok to wear?
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It sounds like a totally appropriate outfit to wear and have the shoes shiny. Nothing is required to be brought to the wake unless there is an event, like a buffet, afterwards. In one wake at the after event I had brought a quality bottle of bourbon but left it in the car until someone mentioned that having a drink would be good and someone seconded the comment. Then I brought in the bourbon and nobody object. Do this only if it is a household where booze isn’t forbitten or frowned upon.
At the funeral parlor, sign in , do the meet and greet stuff, offer condolences. Be a good listener. If things are real quiet and people get antsy and feeling awkward you can always ask someone who knew the lady about the lady and this can lighten the atmosphere and help folks celebrate the person.
Do not bring anything to the wake! You don’t have to wear all black — anything that is tasteful and subdued will do. Your presence is the most important thing here.
I completely disagree w/ the person who mentioned bringing bourbon. This would be absolutely inappropriate, particularly since you do not know this family.
Business casual is appropriate dress for a wake.
The outfit you described is fine.
Unless the wake is in someone’s home, you do not need to bring anything.
Do not bring flowers, as people who are burying someone have enough to worry about without having to figure out where to put all those damn flowers.
Your charitable contribution was sufficient.
you can give a card or amass card at the wake if you want to bring food bring to the house after the funeral wear dress shirt nothing loud dress pants and shoes